cucumissacris tagged me! Thanks!
- Always post the rules.
- Answer the questions the person who tagged you asked and write 11 new ones.
- Tag 11 new people (I’m going to skip this part since I’m technically on a break from tumblr).
- Message the people you’ve tagged to let them know that you’ve tagged them.
- Would you describe yourself as a feminist? Why or why not? Definitely. I am a big believer in the idea that we all have certain destinies to fulfill in our lifetimes, and having systems in place that limit or interfere with that is wrong. Not to mention that inequality has negative consequences for everyone even the people it is supposed to benefit.
- What are your favorite foods? My mother’s enchiladas, Navajo tacos, pinto beans with cornbread, corn dogs, key lime pie, all Thai curry dishes with chicken, Chicken Tikka Misala, paneer pakora, olives with feta, and mashed potatoes.
- Do you shop at farmer’s markets (if they exist where you are)? I did more when I lived in Baltimore. I recently moved to Oregon and haven’t yet. It’s on the list of things to do, though.
- Are you picky about the company you keep? Yes. I didn’t used to be when I was younger and I ended up with a lot of friends who used their friendships to project their issues. It’s only been in the last couple of years that I’ve figured out who should be close, who should be an acquaintance, and who should be avoided altogether. Took a lot of trial and error.
- How social would you say you are? I’m social enough. I need to be around others pretty consistently, but I do better when I spend more time with the people I consider to be close and limit the time I spend with acquaintances. When I’ve done the opposite, I end up needing more time to recharge and hibernate. The people I’m close to renew my energy while the acquaintances take a lot of energy even for short outings. I’m highly sensitive so I have to be aware of the energy of other people or I’ll take it home with me.
- Do you initiate or engage in conversation with strangers? Yes, depending on the setting. I actually initiate conversation more on public transit or while traveling than when I’m at a party or bar. Maybe because at a party or bar there is the idea that this person might become more than a stranger, but when traveling, the odds are I will never see this person again. Some of my more intimate conversations have happened with the person seated next to me on a plane. I have one of those faces people like to confess to, so I’ve learned a lot of secrets about others while in the air.
- Where do you fall on the Kinsey scale? I took an online quiz last year that said I was a 2, but in regards to actual experiences, I’m a 1. I’ve liked peen more often than vageen, but I’m open to a connection with anyone. I am wired for monogamy either way, though.
- Do you like comic books? To be honest, when I was growing up comic books were my brother’s thing so I never really explored them. I think I subconsciously wanted to be unique from my other siblings, so I chose activities they didn’t do.
- Who are your favorite actors, male or female? I don’t really have a favorite actor or actress. I get more attached to the characters they play and how that character resonates with me than I do to the person playing them. This might be because I despise celebrity culture and the Hollywood machine, though.
- Have you ever been in love? Yes, more than once and sometimes with the same person more than a few times. I’ve definitely experienced different variations of what love can be, but I haven’t experienced a love I would want to express and feel for a lifetime yet. I try to appreciate the love that comes into my life for what it is, though, and not discount it just because it has an expiration date. I think that when love is put on a grading scale it takes away from our experiences in the present and appreciating the kind of love we actually need right now. I hope I don’t forget that if and when I do find a love I want to maintain for a lifetime.
- Have you ever had a profound spiritual experience? (This has nothing to do with religion, necessarily, and could be a psychedelically-induced one) I have. My most profound experiences have been through dreams, meditation, prayer, and connecting with another person. Some of my dreams are prophetic and very vivid. Ones like that only happen every year to two years, and I take them very seriously. Even though I’m no longer religious at all, I’m still a big believer in prayer and have seen it work in my life and the lives of others. I think meditation and connecting with another person are two sides of the same spiritual coin. Both allow ourselves to open up and be vulnerable without judgment and shame. I think when we’re in that open and vulnerable place we create a safe space for magic to happen.